Monday, October 22, 2007

Not the post I thought it was going to be

I was going to post today. It's been a while and I knew I should come on and tell you all how fun and hectic getting the store going has been. How Little A is supremely good with customers and loves the cash register. How New England sport teams are now so good that they are making me uncomfortalble (I do much better cheering on the underdogs and we now have none of those.) Just stuff....stuff I can't even remember right now, but it was generally good stuff (apart from the exhaustion).

Then, N called and told me something that has left me completely dumbfounded, filled with sorrow, and feeling really lucky.

I don't think I ever relayed much of this story on here, so I'll just give you a little background. A year (or more....I'm bad with time) before N and I started dating, one of his friends started flirting with me. At the time he seemed really nice, warm, etc... Turned out that he was just a sweet talker and our very brief interlude lasted all of 3 or 4 weeks. At the time, I just chalked him up as "just another asshole". When I started dating N, I started to get a much fuller picture of this guy and realized that he wasn't JUST another ass hole, he was a compulsive liar, and as far as I could tell, a sociopath. His nickname among my friend quickly became Pure Evil. It sounds extreme, but the things N would tell me about this guy. N was not too close to him while we were dating because I would totally lose my shit at the mention of Pure Evil, and still being friends with him? That was just not a part of my deal. I guess it sounds a little assy....like some bitchy girlfriend who tears apart long-time buddies, but the guy was just too evil and I couldn't handle him even being cursorily apart of my world. He's been addressed in this blog before, here, #4. I rarely talk about him because I know how sensationalized it sounds to talk about someone being evil, and whatnot, but well, N called this morning with all the confirmation that anyone will ever need. Even N has now realized that he is the worst human being you could imagine.

Before I tell you all this, I'm just going to preface, so that no one gets crazy concerned about me, I've been tested and I am negative.

So, N called to tell me that he found out this weekend that Pure Evil has KNOWN that he is HIV+ since 2001. I cannot even tell you how many people this guy has had sex with and let me tell you, he is very condom-resistant. He's knowingly ruined, probably, hundreds of lives. He's been engaged for a few months, and infected his fiance, who has a child from a previous marriage. Someone he claimed to love. He finally came clean with N, but judging from his behavior, N doesn't believe that he plans to stop anytime soon. N's trying to figure out a way to turn him in, or who to turn him in to. I just can't even describe how lucky I feel that I escaped this and how completely filled with sadness I am when I think of how many people he's hurt and basically killed. How many kids are now, or will be, motherless...how many mothers watched their daughters die...how many others might have been infected by the already astronomical amount of people that he's infected. I just can't...

9 Comments:

Blogger Julie said...

OMG! How terrible. This is so much worse than you even mention, because surely everyone he infected has infected someone else unknowingly.

Thankfully, you were spared!

2:06 PM  
Blogger Chris said...

I am SO GLAD that you are ok. But damn, it's really hard for me to wrap my head around that level of self-centered nastiness... sheesh.

4:50 PM  
Blogger knitnzu said...

There ya are! Yup, glad you got tested, what a schmuck. I heard some good dating advice today, don't listen to a word he says, just pay attention to what he does. Oh, and you definitely need to check out Keekers' advice (the video link) on my blog, it's good for a laugh. HIV though is not, so get tested every year, OK? My bro got tested every 6 months. Now he doesn't need testing because he knows he is positive. He only told us this year, because he started to not feel well, but he's known for 3 years (the year he got treated for Hep C-they often come along in the same tidy package). But bro is considerate and safe... not at all like pure evil there.

6:24 PM  
Anonymous Nancy said...

Ugh. That is sickening beyond belief.

9:08 PM  
Anonymous roo said...

V, I don't know what to say. First off, I'm so, so grateful that you are all right. Secondly, from what you've told me about this creepy asshole I can't even say that I'm surprised to hear this. And maybe this makes me sound like pure evil, but the good chance that he may die a slow and painful death seems like justice.

9:13 PM  
Blogger Heide said...

I wonder if posting an ad with his picture as PSA would be in order. That way people he's been in contact with can get tested before they potentially pass it on unknowingly to someone else. Heck, he'd probably sue and win though. I'm so, so glad that you're healthy. Hugs from afar!

12:51 AM  
Blogger Jeanne said...

That's a crime. Pity he probably can't be charged...sounds like reckless endangerment or something similar to me.

4:54 PM  
Blogger Psyched2Knit said...

I'm dumbfounded, and you know that it is tough to shut me up! It is just so sad - so sad. Does N know that he is telling the truth about being HIV+ or would he maybe just trying to work a sympathy angle? From what you said here, though, it unfortunately sounds so true. I'm so glad you're o.k.

1:22 AM  
Blogger mamatulip said...

Holy crap, V, I'm just sickened. I'm so glad you are okay...and I'm really sorry that you've had to deal with this horrible news.

4:26 PM  

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